Being Single


by Julian Rosario

Dating is not what it used to be. Long gone is the nervous boy, dressed in his best clothes, knocking on the door of his date’s house and introducing himself to her parents. Long gone is the one-on-one dinner, followed by a movie and maybe the chance of a nervous kiss. It was a time where communication was face-to-face, and reactions seemed more genuine. You would smile if you were happy, sulk if you were sad. There was no way of hiding behind a phone and typing “lol” when laughing was the last thing on your mind.

In this day and age, dating is extremely casual. More often than not you meet the person through a mutual friend, turn into Sherlock Holmes and sift through hundreds of their images before you even decide to go on a date. When you do finally go on the date, it’s never as formal as it used to be – it’s just two people figuring out whether or not they just wasted the last hour of their lives (we’ve all been there).

These changes in the dating scene have been driven through cultural and technological advancements, leading to a society that seeks instant gratification.

Facebook, Tinder, Instagram, Snapchat – all ways in which we keep connected with one another. With over 1 billion people on Facebook and 50 million using Tinder there’s no argument about our online addiction. These platforms have opened the doors and made it easier to meet people outside our initial circle of friends, and allow us to form further online relationships with them.

How often have you added someone on Facebook after meeting them once or twice, they seem cool, so you start talking to them online? Next thing you know, you’ve found out everything about them without even meeting them. Where’s the gut-wrenching, heart throbbing excitement of slinging sentences together hoping to impress? Without any of this, the connections we make are generally lukewarm at the best, and because of this we move on to the next, fresher candidate because it’s that easy.